A textbook For the Art of fellatio.
By Bee cee. Listen to the podcast at How To Sex.
The old world of centuries past, had a trusted process of passing on skills from one generation to the next. Apprenticeships were an effective way to learn through practice. The concept is still used in many trades, But today it also incorporates testing and demonstrations of skills acquired, in order to be certified by an oversight guild or trade association.
We’re instituting this same concept of mastery, to help lovers assess their progress in the art of erotic coupling.
Youthful pledges enter apprenticeships where they learn fundamental skills and benefit from supervised practice.
When they show consistent aptitude of the fundamentals, The guild certifies them as journeymen.
They continue to develop their artistry, until they attain the level of Master, where they are trusted to properly mentor others.
Only the most highly talented and very experienced, will ever be regarded as a grandmaster.
The Apprentice
Many women have only a basic idea of how to give a man a good blow job. Most seem to think that by closing their mouth around a man’s cock and bobbing their head lustily up and down as fast as they can until he shoots his load constitutes a good blow job.
This is true to a point and all well and good for a quick blow job in the car or under the office desk when time is limited. If you want to bring him off quickly then this is an extremely satisfying way, but what does the man's cock really want?
You should preferably pick a time when you will not be disturbed in a reasonably lit area so that both you and he can see what's going on.
Overcome any shyness that you may have and let him see his cock disappear deep inside your mouth, observe and make a mental note of the responses from his cock and indeed the look of pleasure on his face that your tongue and lips are providing are the first steps to master.
For a typical guy, your lips around his ‘family jewels’ is the greatest visual expression of love & devotion. It dramatically impacts his arousal, emotionally, even more than physical.
Pull his foreskin down to reveal his corona and run the tip of your tongue around the base of it.
Close your mouth onto his cock and flick the underside of his corona with your tongue.
Talk to him, tell him his cock is wonderful and that you are not going to stop until he cums in your mouth.
Always stay in control and don't ask which part he likes best, find that out for yourself. Keep your tongue, mouth and hands active.
Cup his balls and gently scratch with your finger nails the area between his anus and balls.
If you are wary of the amount of cum he will produce, just as he is about to erupt, place your thumb and forefinger at the base of his cock and gently squeeze to restrict the flow.
The amount of cum a man produces is a good indication of how much he has enjoyed what you have done for him. Most men who have been stimulated in this way will produce copious amounts. Slow down and relax are the golden rules.
Every woman should also be aware of the most sensitive and sensual moment that a man's cock experiences.
Most mornings, men wake up with a hard on, referred to generally as piss proud. This moment is about two or three minutes after he has relieved himself; and is the ideal time to give him a sensual blow job.
What position should you be in?
Because of the structure of his cock, as well as the structure of your mouth, lips, tongue and teeth, you can provide the highest degree of sensation for yourself and your partner by kneeling between his legs with him either sat down or standing up and with your head tipped slightly back, approaching his cock from the bottom rather than from the side or top.
This will enable you to read the expressions on his face and observe how his cock is reacting to your stimulation.
Alternatively, lie on your back on the bed and position yourself so that your back is on a pillow or two, but your head is just beyond the pillow. Let your head drop to the mattress so you are able to take him deep.
Relax and make yourself as comfortable as possible and open your mouth ready to accept him.
He should approach you on his knees from above; and as soon as you have his cock in your mouth, take control of the situation by placing both of your hands on his buttocks. This will allow you to guide him in and out at your own pace and to stop him thrusting and gagging you.
His ball sack will likely straddle the bridge of your nose, so close your eyes and concentrate, as you direct his hips with your hands.
Types of Blow Jobs
There are three types:
· The Quickie, which we just outlined; for when there is not much time e.g. in the shop doorway on your way home from the pub, in the car or even in aunt Mabel's living room when she is making the tea.
· Pure sensual oral love making when you really want to do something special and you have plenty of time. We’re about to discuss that art, in great detail.
· Deep Throat which needs plenty of practice to be able to accommodate his cock fully down your throat and past your tonsils without choking you, discussed last in this episode.
Plan on improving your skills and expressions every new lovemaking event. If you’re perfect in your execution on the very first time, we probably don’t believe you.
If your performance is awkward and disrupted by clumsiness, just know that you’ll only get better as you apply yourself. Your man is more impressed by your devotion to his pleasure, than your prowess.
Take Initiative
The ‘journeywoman’
Lead him in to the bedroom, telling him that you have a very special surprise for him and that it will be something he will always remember. You will most probably have given your man a number of blow jobs before and will be quite comfortable to take his cum in your mouth and swallow it.
Also, know exactly which point of your stimulation brings him to his point of no return. Sit on the edge of the bed with him and reach over for a couple of pillows. Push him down on to his back and place the pillows under his head making sure that his head is tipped slightly forward so that he can observe everything you are doing.
Remove his trousers and underwear. Part his legs and approach his cock from below, with your mouth slightly open and your tongue licking your top and bottom lips until they are really wet.
Tell him that he is about to receive the best blow job of his life, and that he should just relax and let you take control of the situation.
He should already have at least a semi hard-on, at this stage; so take his cock in your hand and very slowly start to stroke him.
Bring your wet lips close to his cock and do full, long, slow hand strokes, so that the corona, or head; is extended.
Don't be shy. Encourage him to watch you loving on his cock!
Any man loves to see his cock disappear deep into a woman's mouth.
This will be one of the most erotic scenes either of you will ever experience. Occasionally, pause the downward stroke long enough to give the corona a long lick with your wet tongue.
Look up to see the response on his face each time your tongue touches different parts of his cock and let him see that you are wanting him to enjoy every minute of it.
Close your eyes down to a slit and make erotic facial gestures. No man can stay soft under these circumstances, especially in anticipation of what you have made clear that you are going to do for him next.
Anticipation and teasing are all part of giving tremendous oral sex; but don't spend too much time in this area or his cock may stop responding and could even go limp on you.
Once you have started to wank and lick his cock, it will obviously become very hard and swollen.
Gaze into his eyes lovingly and open your mouth fairly wide, then slowly take his cock as deep into your mouth as possible. Hold this moment for as long as you feel is right then very slowly pull back until his cock is just at the tip of your lips.
Pull down gently on his foreskin as far as you can to reveal his corona.
Gently lick under and around the rim of his corona, you will see by the expression on his face how much pleasure he is receiving from you.
Close your mouth onto his cock again keeping his foreskin pulled down with one hand and slowly feed it as deep into your mouth as possible, again slowly pull back off repeating this action several times.
After a self determined number of "sucks", pull off and lick his cock up, down and around to see which option gives him the most pleasure.
Let the tip of your tongue softly caress his "opening, at the very tip.
This is heavenly for most men. Talk to him and tell him what a lovely cock he has and that you will not stop until he has cum in your mouth.
With all this sucking and licking, his cock must be ready to explode by now.
You will certainly feel it pulsing and twitching, (and surely him groaning with pleasure).
He will probably tell you amid his groans of pleasure; that he is ready to cum but you should already have a good idea anyway.
He may instinctively try to push his cock further down your throat than you are comfortable with.
To keep the situation fully under your control, move both your hands up to his hands and place them on to his stomach, hold them there while you carry on sucking him at your own slow pace.
Now is the time to give your man the greatest pleasure of all, to take his cum in your mouth.
Keep his cock as deep into your mouth as you can, tilt your head back slightly and make eye contact whilst sucking nodding back and forth ever so slowly, your tongue swallowing or rubbing on the under side of his glans. until you feel his climax ripple through his body and up through his cock.
Just as his cum is about to erupt, hold your mouth and lips still, maintain eye contact and let him sense and feel his cum spraying inside your mouth.
Swallow as much as you can. Let him feel you swallowing it, but don't release the grip of your lips from his cock just yet.
Once his orgasm has subsided, let go of his hands and bring one of your hands round to the base of his cock and squeeze it gently between your thumb and fore finger in an upward motion (slightly wanking it into your mouth).
This will force most of the remaining cum up and out of his cock. When his cock has stopped pulsating in ecstasy; and he has relaxed, pull back very slowly making sure that his foreskin is still pulled down, then gently lick and suck any remaining cum into your mouth.
Place your thumb and forefinger at the base of his cock as before, gently squeeze and with an upward motion, milk his cock for any remaining cum, this will usually produce a small amount which you can dip your tongue into and swirl it around the head of his cock.
Let him see his cum on your tongue and in your mouth before you take his cock back into your mouth for a further self determined number of deep sucks.
This is the ultimate in sexual dreams that a man can have (at least until the next time); so make your man’s dreams come true.
Sensual Fellatio Arts
The mistress
Experience and practice are the only requirements needed to give a sensual blow job and provide a man with the highest degree of pleasure possible.
Try some variety. If the two of you are enjoying a movie night at home, You might want to take initiative on the sofa.
Get your man to sit on the edge of the sofa with his legs apart and Kneel in front of him.
If he’s more interested in the tv screen than you are, Just tell him to unbuckle and slide out of the pants, and shorts; so you can visit his manhood for a while. With your mouth fairly close and partly open, wank his cock ever so slowly, occasionally rubbing your thumb over the head.
Look into his eyes. Tease him by licking your lips (a wet warm mouth is very erotic).
It won't be long before you have a raging hard on in your hand; so turn your attention to a different area to take his mind off cumming too soon.
Cup his balls gently with your free hand and let your fingers explore the underside scratching lightly with your fingernails and paying particular attention to the area just before his anus. Gently pull down his foreskin to expose the full head of his cock. Close your mouth around the head and tease it with your tongue, still looking into his eyes and observing any reactions. Using your tongue, lick softly along the entire underside of his now throbbing cock.
As you suck and lick; you will learn those areas that give him the greatest pleasure when your tongue is touching them. Are you paying attention to his signals?
He should by now have provided you with several clues as to which areas are most pleasurable to him.
The most sensitive area for most men will be the ring (or corona) of the head. The underside of the cock head, called the glans penis
By continued licking and sucking around this area with your tongue you are going to bring forth a geyser.
If you are not skilled and you want to please him in a hurry I suggest that you get him off in this manner in order to become familiar at first hand with the nature and delight of his climax.
As he is approaching climax you will note changes in his cock. These signs will be the same every time he climaxes and you can learn how to react and prepare for his cum properly.
The head of his cock will swell somewhat larger than it is during the normal course of his erection. He may reflexively thrust his hips forward as he tries to shove his cock deeper into your mouth.
For most men, immediately prior to his cum, there will appear at the tip of his cock a clear drop or two of pre-cum. This isn’t urine. It’s not gross. When you see or taste his pre-cum you will know that he is ready to shoot his load.
By now you will have a very swollen throbbing cock in your mouth and will feel and sense the urgency in which he needs to shoot his load. His cock is probably deep red, or maybe slightly purple.
His cock and his whole body is now quivering and you can feel his cum emptying from his balls, up the length of his cock and spurting uncontrollably into your hot wet mouth. His balls will constrict up tightly against the base of his cock when his cum starts to flow.
Don't let him rush you. Take as much of his cock into your mouth as you can, and suck him up and down slowly keeping your lips fairly tight round his cock. Try to make eye contact just before he cums and let him see that you are enjoying this moment as much as he is.
He’ll never forget this moment of devotion.
A natural reaction at the point of ejaculation is to suck harder and faster, don't!
Just carry on slowly and when you feel the first spurt, almost stop, gazing into his eyes and let his cock as deep into your wrapped mouth as you can and hold still. Use your flat tongue to stroke under his shaft as your tight lips hold him wrapped in an oral hug.
Tilt your head slightly back so that he can see his raging cock buried deep in your mouth. Breathe only through your nostrils during this precious event.
Now just hold still and gently suck, let his cum flow over your tongue and down your throat.
You can swallow most of his cum directly at this stage without releasing the grip of your lips. His cock will spasm several times during orgasm and each spasm will produce a fair amount of cum.
The amount of cum your man produces is a general guide as to how much you have pleased him.
When his cock stops pumping, pull back very slowly, to wring out his spent cock; then take the head back into your mouth and gently suck the remaining cum into your mouth. Carry on licking gently around the head and occasionally, close your wet mouth over it until he stops spasming and jerking.
He will love the sensuality of your mouth caressing his cock, extending his orgasmic bliss for as long as possible.
This bliss only lasts about half a minute, for a guy. Females’ orgasms can last a good bit longer. So let his fully enjoy each precious second.
Becoming His Fellatio Artist
The Grandmistress
By understanding your anatomy you will begin to understand the requirements that will allow you to take the full length of your man’s hard cock into your mouth and all the way down your throat without choking you.
The biggest obstacle is the fact that there is a bend of almost eighty degrees behind your tongue leading down into your throat. So the first thing you need to do is get his cock past that angle without you gasping for breath and ruining the moment.
A relaxed and well-lubricated throat is essential. Warm sweet tea is a good thing to have sitting at the nightstand before you begin. Take a long drink before you get into position.
Now get in a position where you can tilt your head in such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight line. The best way to accomplish this position is to lie on your back on the bed with your head positioned just over the edge of a pillow, cushion, or mattress; and tipped sharply back.
This position will put your mouth and throat nearly in a line and will allow him to approach on his knees giving you full control over how much of his cock you can take.
You can then gently guide him in and out of your mouth at your own pace by grasping his buttocks and pulling & pushing him. Keep a firm grip on his cock with your lips and keep your tongue as straight as possible.
It is possible that not everyone will learn the "Deep Throat" technique until several sessions have been completed but this should not stop you from practicing. You must learn to allow your throat to relax completely and breathe through your nose instead of your mouth.
Pull his cock as deep into your throat as you comfortably can. To do this long enough for him to completely orgasm and cum down your throat is very difficult and may require practice beyond this one day alone.
It may be that you will be able to take his cock completely down your throat, but you will not be able to maintain a good grip with your mouth. If this is the situation, then pull, push and suck as deeply as you can until he is just about to erupt.
As his cum starts to pump in to your mouth, pull him past your tonsils and hold him still for as long as you can.
Next time you will know precisely what to expect and how to react. It is important for the first few times at least that you let him know that you must be in complete control of his cock in this situation because only you know how much you can comfortably take.
After several sessions on your deep throat skills; you will learn to relax and will feel more comfortable each time.
You will know precisely when he is about to cum; and how much of his cock you can take.
If you are feeling comfortable at this point, let him fuck your mouth at his own pace.
It is possible to take a full 10 inch cock all the way past your tonsils and deep into your throat. His thickness is the biggest challenge, not his length.
You can feel his foreskin peel back as it eases past the back of your throat just as it does when he first enters your cunt. As he fucks your throat, he will not be able to or want to hold back for very long. The pure sensation of his foreskin pulling back and forth deep inside your throat will bring forth an enormous amount of cum.
Another technique, which is not really deep-throating but will still give him the same sensation is to clench your hand around his cock as near to the base as possible; and as you go down on him with your mouth, pull slightly downwards.
And on the way up, pull slightly upwards pulling his foreskin back and forth over the corona. Keep your clenched hand close to your mouth and this will feel to him like his whole cock is engorged; and again will produce copious amounts of cum.
As mentioned before, the amount of cum a man produces is a direct result of how much pleasure you have given him. Feel free to follow all or some of these exercises, and maybe make your own alterations & improvements along the way.
If the man has any sense of gratitude, he’ll already be yanking your panties down and eating you out with a passion. Let him! This is a perfect redirect, while his cock recovers for another round of fucking, but the finale will be his cock visiting the depth of your very wet cunt. And his 2nd serving of spunk only erupts after a longer, more sensual time of deep fucking.