Prone Positions for intimacy
BY THE EDITORS OF MEN’S HEALTH. Listen to the ► Podcast at How To Sex.
Guys, if you and your woman are looking for positions to help her orgasm, then you want to look for sex positions where you can manually stimulate her clitoris during penetration. “Most women are not going to be able to get highly aroused or have an orgasm unless there’s some kind of clitoral stimulation happening,” Kerner says.
Or perhaps you want to explore elements of BDSM (an umbrella term encompassing Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, Sadism, and Masochism) with new sex positions. “Some of these positions are great for power play, where you can feel dominant or submissive,” Kerner says.
Some of these sex positions are fun to try for novelty’s sake, but not necessarily ideal from start to finish. “You will likely want to mix and match positions,” Kerner says. “You can start in some of the more adventurous and highly athletic positions, but then transition into a less demanding position, where you can fully relax and feel present in the sex you’re having.”
If a sex position feels uncomfortable, don’t overdo it. This isn’t a “push through the pain” situation. Just switch to something else! There are plenty of positions here to choose from.
These positions are detailed in no particular order, but we’ll need to split this topic into two parts, because of the great variety of expressions on the list. And if we’re just not descriptive enough for those listening to the audio podcast, be sure to pull up the transcript with detailed illustrations of all 56 positions.
And now, let’s continue with the next position.
Chapter 4: Man On Top
27. Missionary
Also known as: The Matrimonial, Male Dominant
Benefits:
We know this one isn't necessarily new to lots of guys, but there's
something sort of kinky about doin' it in the most vanilla position of
all. Plus, you get lots of eye and body contact.
Technique: Men,
Your woman lies down on her back, her legs spread enough for you to lay
upon her, facing her; with your legs between hers, and your penis
penetrating her vagina. The massive skin-to-skin contact triggers
oxytocin for both partners and aids deeper sexual arousal. Kissing
enhances intimacy and bonding. Her hands are free to stimulate him, why
he shifts his weight occasionally from one arm to the other, giving his a
free hand for pleasuring her breasts, and other intimate touches. The
most commonly used position in the world, the missionary, is an
especially intimate position allowing for face-to-face contact. You like
it because you can control penetration depth and speed of thrusting.
Your woman enjoys feeling your weight on her body, and the maximum
skin-to-skin contact.
Note that this position can make it more
difficult to hold off ejaculation because of the intense friction and
deep thrusting. To lengthen lovemaking, start with this, then switch to a
position that maintains clitoral pressure without so much pelvic back
and forth.
Also try: Push up to create space in between you to sneak a small vibrator down for buzzing the top of her mound.
Hot
tip for him: Raise one of her legs so her knee is level with your right
shoulder. Keep her other leg flat on the bed. Thrust toward the inner
thigh of her raised leg. This adjustment forces tighter penetration and
more clitoral pressure.
28. Quicker Picker Upper
Also known as: The Pillow Driver
Benefits: A little bit of variety if missionary begins to feel stale; good upper body exercise.
Technique:
Men, Place a pillow under the small of her back or her buttocks to tilt
her pelvis and change the angle of your penetration for different
sensations. Bracing yourself with your hands on the bed as in a push-up
position, you take your weight off her body.
Hot Tip: Some women love the passionate hammering of her cunt. By adding lumbar support, it give a man more direct impact for vaginal thrusting. It's also helpful for when a woman's belly is larger, such as during the 3rd trimester of pregnancy.
Note: Pregnancy often brings out the sexual animal in a woman. Some are insatiable.
29. David Copperfield
Also known as: Trick and Treat
Benefits: This sex position is the “pièce de résistance” for women who prefer a strong, upward stroking motion.
Technique:
Men, Place a pillow under her hips to tilt her pelvis up. Bend her
knees so she can place her feet on your shoulder blades. This experience
is all about using both hands and your mouth, drawing out the hidden
clitoris from its nest, and lavishing it with tender affection and
intense stimulation.
Also try: Amplify your oral efforts with a
simple sleight-of-hand trick: While you lap away, try using your hands
to push gently upward on her abdomen, stretching her skin away from her
pubic bone, and helping to coax the head of the clitoris out from
beneath the hood.
Hot tip: Let your tongue rest firmly and flat
against the full length of the vaginal entrance, then have her move and
grind against your tongue.
30. Closed For Business
Benefits:
A variation of One Up that allows for slow buildup. Some women who
struggle with hyper-sensitive genitals, and who reach orgasm faster than
they prefer, will want to regulate the lovemaking foreplay.
Technique:
Some women find direct clitoral stimulation uncomfortable. Having here
close her legs during oral sex may help. The man places his hand above
her public mound, applying light pressure, and then rubs his tongue on
the area around the clitoris to add indirect stimulation.
Hot tip: The man can also try keeping his tongue still while the woman rocks her pelvis back and forth.
31. Magic Mountain
Benefits: Think the deep penetration of Doggy, with the closeness of Flatiron (great for dirty talk). Women who love anal fun, enjoy the intimacy of her man's heavy breathing and sexy talk in her ear.
Technique:
Find a low-lying piece of furniture, like an ottoman or a bed. Kneel
over it so it provides a bend at the waist (this can also be done with a
stack of pillows on the bed). The man kneels behind the woman, entering
from behind. He then forms his body to that of the woman’s.
Hot tip: Slow. It. Down. Instead of quick thrusting, aim for a slow and steady flow.
32. The Seashell
Benefits: This position will provide just about the deepest penetration you can get in a forward-facing position.
Technique:
Men, You'll need some flexibility for this one. The seashell is very
similar to Happy Baby, except a bit more... folded. Start in missionary,
and have the woman bring both her legs up by her head. The man then
enters facing them, leaning into the woman's legs.
Also try: If
the stretch becomes a bit too much for the woman, take a break with
Happy Baby—where they bend her knees up to 90 degrees. You will both
still get the deep penetration that Seashell provides, without the woman
feeling like they're tearing up her hamstrings.
Hot tip: Place a
pillow underneath the woman's hips for more lift—it'll make the bend
for the receiving woman a bit more comfortable.
33. The Captain
Also known as: V is for Victory
Benefits: Deep penetration, G-spot stimulation, and access to the clitoris.
Technique:
Men, The woman lies on her back and raises her legs in the air.
Kneeling, hold her ankles and spread her legs into a V shape before
entering her.
Also try: Making sure she stretches her hamstrings first.
Hot
tip: Since your hands are busy holding her legs in place, she should
hold a vibrator if she wants to add some added clit stimulation to this
position.
34. Doggy Style
Also known as: Man's Best Friend
Benefits: Deep penetration and an erotic view.
Technique:
Men, This could be your next move after starting in The Flatiron sex
position. Entering your kneeling woman from behind, you'll be able to
thrust deep, so the tip of your penis touches her cervix, an
often-neglected pleasure zone. But you should do this slowly and gently.
Some women find it painful.
Hot tip for her: She may be able to
increase the intensity of your orgasm by pushing her pelvic floor
muscles outward, as if trying to squeeze something out of her vagina.
This causes the vaginal walls to lower, making the G-spot more
accessible.
Hot tip for him: Your hands are free to roam her
body. Try leaning over her back and reaching her dangling, drooping
breasts. Her nipples may become very firm aroused, and engorged. Try
stroking her hair, shoulders and back. Reach around her hips to stroke
her clit while penetrating her. Hang onto her hips and get aggressive if
she likes a rougher pounding. Have some oil or lube handy to massage
her anus while you have an excellent view and access. She may want you
to explore further in her anus if she’s in the mood for it.
35. The Flatiron
Also known as: Downward Dog, The Belly Flop
Benefits: Intensifies vaginal pleasure.
Technique:
Men, Your woman lies face down on the bed, knees slightly bent and hips
slightly raised. For comfort, and to increase the angle of her hips,
she can place a pillow under her lower abs. You enter her from behind
and keep your weight off her body by propping yourself up with your
arms. This position creates a snug fit, making you feel larger to your
woman. Many men find this position very convenient when they come home
late to their sleeping woman. But be advised to use lube on your penis
first, and go slow if you’re surprising your woman. Her vagina probably
hasn’t had time to respond sexually with sufficient natural lubrication.
Also try: You'll last longer in this position if you switch to shallower thrusts and begin deep breathing.
Hot
tip: Less friction means less stimulation—and can help you last longer.
Try using a very slippery silicon-based lubricant, which may allow you
to thrust longer before reaching orgasm.
36. The G-Whiz
Also known as: The Shoulder Holder, The Anvil
Benefits: Allows deep penetration and targeting the G-spot
Technique:
Men, Your woman lies on her back. You kneel between her legs and raise
them, resting her calves over each of your shoulders. Rock them in a
side-to-side and up-and-down motion to bring the head and shaft of your
penis in direct contact with the front wall of her vagina. Because this
angle allows for deep penetration, thrust slowly at first, to avoid
causing discomfort.
Also try: Bring her legs down and have her
place her feet on your chest in front of your shoulders. This allows
your woman to control the tempo and depth of thrusts.
Hot tip:
Notice when your woman is nearing orgasm. You do that by listening for
her breath to become short and shallow. Flushed skin and slightly
engorged breasts also indicate she’s nearing the peak of her arousal.
37. Happy Baby
Benefits:
Ideal for vaginal and anal penetration. This one's great for her G-spot
stimulation. And it's a comfortable option if the woman experiences
lower back pain.
Technique: Men, The woman assumes the happy
baby pose, a popular yoga position where you lie on your back, bend your
knees into your chest, grip the outer edges of your feet, and roll side
to side like, well, a happy baby. In this case, instead of rolling
around, the woman stays put so you can enter her from a kneeling
position.
Also try: Tweaking your angles by sliding a sex pillow underneath her hips.
38. The Face Sitter
Also known as: Hovering Dragonfly
Benefits:
A comfortable position for your woman An erotic one for you. It
accommodates long sessions of orally pleasuring the man.
Technique:
Men, Rest a pillow behind her head, then straddle below her shoulders.
Support yourself by holding the bed's headboard or the wall.
Hot tip for her: If your woman's mouth becomes dry after a while, she can add some mint- or fruit-flavored lube to your shaft.
39. Pretzel
Also known as: The Pretzel Dip, The Camel Ride
Benefits: The deep penetration of doggy-style while face to face.
Technique:
Men, Kneel and straddle her lower leg while she’s lying on her side.
Your woman will bend her upper leg around the side of your waist, which
will give you access to enter her vagina. For many women, rear entry
hurts their backs. This sex position allows them to lounge comfortably
while enjoying deep penetration. This position is ideal for women who
are healing from physical setbacks, because the man can better avoid
rough agitation while copulating.
Also try: Manually stimulate
her using your fingers. Or withdraw your penis and, holding the shaft
with your left hand, rub the head against her clitoris to bring her to
the brink of orgasm. You can reinsert when she wants you back inside.
Hot
tip: Be gentle with her clitoris. It's more sensitive than your penis,
so touch lightly at first. Some women even prefer gentle pressure around
it rather than direct stimulation. Go soft, then increase speed and
pressure.
Hot tip for him: And ask her to direct you, faster, slower, lighter, harder.
40. Mountain Climber
Also known as: The Pushup
Benefits: Creates great eye-to-eye contact. Keeps your weight off her body.
Technique:
Men, Begin in the ‘Missionary’ position, then show her your skills.
There's a reason people swoon when they see a six pack. They know a man
with strong abs is going to be great in the sack. The mountain climber
position shows off your strength and hard abs (if you have them). While
penetrating between your woman’s legs, assume the standard "push up"
position. This gives you a great live porno view, and you’re the porn
star! You can watch her body react to a building orgasm.
Also try: Lower yourself to kiss your woman teasingly while thrusting with your shoulders as well as your pelvis.
Hot
tip: Tease her with a series of moves: by entering with just the tip;
thrusting just halfway in; then removing yourself and stroking her
outside with your rigid penis. She can reach down and grab your shaft
and rub her clitoris with it.
41. Spork
Also known as: Spoon and Fork Combo, Scissoring.
Benefits: Offers a natural bridge to more creative positions.
Technique:
Men, Your woman lies on her back, and raises her right leg so you can
position yourself between her legs at a 90-degree angle and enter. Her
legs will form the tines of a spork (a spoon-and-fork utensil). She can
do this with you facing her or facing her back.
Also try: If your woman is limber, lift her left leg up to increase the depth of penetration.
Hot
tip for her: From the Spork position, have her lift her top leg and
support it by resting it on your shoulder. From here, she can easily
stimulate her clitoris using her fingers while you're inside her.
42. Coital Alignment Technique
Also known as: The CAT
Benefits: Strong clitoral stimulation.
In
a study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, women who
were unable to have an orgasm in the missionary position reported a 56
percent increase in orgasm frequency using the coital alignment
technique. Other studies suggest even greater success, with up to 73
percent of women achieving orgasm with CAT.
Technique: Men, The
CAT is very similar to the missionary position except your body is
positioned farther up and to one side. Instead of being chest to chest,
your chest is near your woman's shoulders. Have her bend her legs about
45 degrees to tilt her hips up. This causes the base of your shaft to
maintain constant contact with the clitoris.
Also try: Ask your woman to straighten her legs. Push your pelvis down a few inches while she pushes up.
Hot
tip: Instead of thrusting up and down, rock forward and back to
(hopefully) provide enough stimulation for your woman to orgasm. Make
this position even better by grinding your pelvis in a circular motion.
43. Snow Angel
Also known as: Bottom's Up
Benefits: She gets a prime view of your derriere.
Technique:
Men, This is challenging: Your woman lies on her back while you
straddle her facing away. She lift her legs and wraps them around your
back to elevate her pelvis so you can enter. she then grabs your butt to
help you slide up and back. She can add a little massage action to her
grip also.
Hot tip: Spin around into missionary style to face her
while trying to stay inserted. Then switch positions, this time with
her on top and facing away.
44. The X Position
Also known as: Crisscross
Benefits: Prolonged slow sex to build arousal. Shallow thrusts stimulate the nerve endings in the head of your penis.
Technique:
Men, Sit on the bed facing each other with legs forward. Lift your
right leg over her left, and she lifts her right leg over your left.
Come together so you can enter. Now both of you lie back, with your legs
forming an X. Slow, leisurely gyrations replace thrusting.
Also
try: Reach out and hold hands to pull together for pelvic thrusting.
Also, take turns alternatively sitting up and lying back without
changing the rhythm.
Chapter 5: Woman On Top
45. Cowgirl
Also known as: Woman On Top
Benefits:
“There's going to be G-spot stimulation, clitoral stimulation, and
cervical stimulation,” says Kerner. “It’s a nice position for her to
really control her orgasm. It also gives you a great view of everything
that’s happening.”
Technique: Men, Cowgirl is one of the best sex
positions because it allows for a variety of interesting sights and
sensations, and offers your woman the psychological advantage of taking
charge of pace and depth of penetration. Alternate between shallow and
deep thrusts. "Shallow will stimulate the front third of the vagina,
which is the most sensitive," says sex therapist Rebecca Rosenblat,
author of Seducing Your Man.
Also try: Lie chest to chest, with
your woman, stretching her legs out on top of your legs. Your woman
should brace her feet on the tops of yours and push off to create a
rocking motion that will rub the vulva and clitoral area against your
pubic bone for greater pleasure.
Hot tip: It will be easier
for your woman to climax if you stimulate her manually and orally until
she’s extremely aroused. From the cowgirl position, have her squat over
your face so you can pull off some oral stimulation.
46. Reverse Cowgirl
Also known as: Rodeo Drive, Half Way Around the World
Benefits:
With a pillow under your head, you get an awesome view of your woman’s
backside. She can control depth of penetration and pace with this sex
position.
Technique: Men, Lie on your back with your legs
outstretched. Your woman kneels next to you, then turns and spreads her
legs, straddling your hips and facing your feet. Kneeling, she lowers
down onto your penis and begins riding you.
Also try: Have your woman lean forward or back to change the angle of the penis for greater stimulation.
Hot
tip for her: From this position, she can easily reach down to touch
herself or direct your penis to where it feels best. She can also fondle
your scrotum or massage your prostate, or anus.
Hot tip for him:
You can easily add anal massaging to heighten her arousal. Have anal
lube available if she wants your fingers to venture farther in, back
there.
47. Pole Position
Also known as: Thighmaster
Benefits: Dual stimulation for your woman; for you—a great view of her rear and your penis entering her.
Technique:
Men, Lie on your back and bend one of your legs so the knee is up in
the air, keeping the other outstretched horizontally. Your woman
straddles the raised leg with a thigh on either side and lowers herself
onto your vertical penis(the pole), so that her backside is somewhat
facing you. She should hold your knee and use it for support as she
rocks up and down. She can have her knees down, or one leg swatted
between your legs.
Also try: she can press her vulva hard against your upper thigh, rubbing as the feeling dictates.
Hot
tip for her: From Pole Position, your woman can massage your raised leg
during the action. Or reach down and touch your perineum.
Hot
tip for him: Your eyes may be admiring the view of her arse, but she may
really want a gentle sphincter massage. Have some anal lube within
reach, as she may decide she wants you to explore her anal region
farther in, as her climax builds.
48. '69'
Also known as: Inverted 69, Over and Under.
Benefits: Simultaneous oral pleasure.
Technique:
When she’s on top in 69, she can control the intensity of oral
stimulation on her clitoris by lifting or pressing her pelvis. From this
position, it's easy to work her finger magic on your perineum, the
sensitive area just below your testicles. Also try the man-on-top
position.
Also try: Roll over onto your sides in the 69 sex position.
Hot
tip for her: Place a cup of warm tea and an ice cube on the nightstand
near the bed. When she gives you oral sex, she can alternate placing the
ice cube then the tea in her mouth.
49. Lazy Man
Also known as: The Squat Thrust
Benefits:
Puts her in control, maintains intimacy. Provides a frisky woman some
sexual activities when you have little energy or physical limitations.
As long as she can get you hard, she has all she needs to ‘scratch her
deepest itches’.
Technique: Men, Place pillows behind your
back and sit on the bed with legs outstretched. Your woman straddles
your waist, feet on the bed. She then bends her knees to lower herself
onto you, using one hand to direct your penis in. Just by pressing on
the balls of her feet and releasing, she can raise and lower herself on
your shaft as slowly or quickly as she pleases.
Also try: From this position, you both lie back into the Spider position or its more challenging variation, The X.
50.The Spider
Benefits: You both can still maintain eye contact while viewing the action at center stage.
Technique:
Men, Both of you are seated on the bed with legs toward one another,
arms back to support yourselves. Now you both move together as she
places her legs over yours. Her hips will be between your spread legs,
Her knees bent and feet outside of your hips and flat on the bed. Now
align the genitals and enter, then rock back and forth.
Also try:
She grabs your hands and pulls herself up into a squatting position
while you lie back. Or you can remain seated upright and pull her
against your chest into the Lazy Man position.
Hot tip: Help turn
her on by straddling her bottom and massaging her back. While you're
busy with your hands, She can wiggle, grind, and move her mons pubis in a
circular motion against the sheets to stimulate the clitoris.
51. Waterfall
Also known as: Head Rush
Benefits: The blood will rush to your other head too.
Technique:
Men, move to the edge of the bed and lie back with his head and
shoulders on the floor as his woman straddles his pelvis. The blood will
rush to your head, creating mind-blowing sensations upon orgasm.
52. The Socket
Benefits:
“This looks like it's a nice position to fantasize a little and get a
new view of your woman’s behind,” says Kerner. “It's a chance to get
absorbed in the sensations.”
Technique: Men, From reverse
cowgirl, have her bend all the way forward, extending her legs all the
way back. She should be supporting her body by resting on her elbows, as
if she was holding a plank.
Hot tip: Your woman can easily
stimulate her own clitoris while you penetrate her. If the two of you
are into spanking, go for it.
53. Pearly Gates
Benefits: Great for G-spot stimulation.
Technique:
Men, You lie on your back. Your woman can straddles you in a reverse
cowgirl position before carefully leaning backward until her back is on
your chest.
Hot tip: You can reach around and play with her
nipples or clitoris. (She can also use a vibrator in this position.) A
chaise lounge is an ideal piece of furniture for this position. It also
facilitates anal adventures. But be careful not to break a cock, with a
wrong move or other accident.
54. The Fusion
Also known as: Getting a Leg Up
Benefits: Quicker orgasms for your woman; easier motions.
Technique:
Men, From The Spider, your woman can lift her legs onto your shoulders,
which increases the muscular tension that advances the orgasm sequence.
By elevating her butt off the bed, it'll be easier for her to thrust
and grind in circles.
55. Hovering Butterfly
Also known as: The Face Sitter
Benefits: She can direct the position of your tongue and the pressure against her by rising up or pressing down.
Technique:
Men, Your woman straddles you, placing her knees at your ears. She can
hold onto a wall or headboard for support. While you're doing your
thing, she can use her fingers to graze her nipples or rub the top of
her vulva.
Also try: Hold your tongue firm as she gyrates her hips, pressing her clitoris against it.
56. The ‘69′ Bridge
Also known as: Golden Gate
FYI: If your woman can do this, she may have been a Russian ballerina in a past life.
It’s the ultimate test of a woman’s limits.
Technique:
Men, “This just looks impossible to me,” says Kerner. “But if your
woman is able to do it, go for it. I think it’s just a victory in being
able to pull this position off.” Add an incentive reward if she needs
encouragement. A small, slender woman will have an easier time trying.
Hot tip: You may need to help out your woman by thrusting your pelvis up, so her mouth can actually reach your genitals.