Simple advice from experts, to unlock your deeper sexuality.
Welcome to How-To Sex Podcast; a resource to give daily guidance for successful sexuality, regardless of how you like it.
We tap into the expertise and insights from a wide variety of masters, who want to share their discoveries, and innovations.
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I've never tried anal sex before. It never appealed to me. Actually, I never have given it much thought until I perused the anal sex category here at Literotica and found it so popular.
I am a bit embarrassed to admit it, but I have never even had sex doggie style either. Yes, I realize that doggie style sex is an overwhelming favorite for hordes of people but not for me. It is not that I did not try having sex doggie style, it just did not work for me; my cock did not reach far enough for me to feel like I was fucking her. I mean, really fucking her.
Sex toys — also called adult toys or “marital aids” — are objects people use to have more pleasure during sex or masturbation. Sometimes sex toys can also have medical uses if you have a sexual dysfunction or medical condition. There are many different types of sex toys, and people use them for lots of different reasons.
It’s totally normal to use sex toys, but it’s also totally normal not to — it’s a personal decision, and everyone’s different. As long as you’re using sex toys safely, there’s nothing harmful about it.
A fun, new sex position is an easy way to immerse yourself in a sexual experience. Take a much-needed break from stressing about work or the state of the world by attempting something adventurous in the bedroom, like the many sex positions you’ll find on this list. (Don’t worry, we also included fan favorites like missionary, cowgirl, spooning, and doggy style.
Which positions should you try next? Start by asking yourself what you’re hoping to achieve by changing up your usual routine. This will guide how you approach this list of sex positions, explains Ian Kerner, sex therapist, and author of; She Comes First; and, So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex.
If you suddenly have an itch to try some new sex positions, we’re not surprised. When we recently surveyed 1,229 American men about their sex lives, a third of respondents said they’re feeling more sexually experimental now than before the pandemic began.
According to Justin Lehmiller, Kinsey Institute researcher and member of the Men’s Health Advisory Panel, stress could have something to do with the widespread craving for sexual novelty. “When we’re stressed, it’s often harder to feel desire or to stay in the moment, because our mind is distracted and wandering,” Lehmiller says. “Trying something new can create this immersive experience that lets us be in the moment and raises sexual arousal.”
I've been to a Swinger Club on roughly a dozen occasions, so perhaps not enough to count myself as an expert. But perhaps enough to have observed some common behaviors, and these are what I want to address here, particularly in relation to single guys who go to Swinger Clubs.
The Swinger Club Scenario
What usually happens is that my husband suggests that we go to our preferred club about a week ahead of time (or further out, if there is an enticing theme advertised for a particular night.)
This topic comes up more often than our society is comfortable with. To illustrate the matter, imagine the scenario of a couple of 50 year old English gentlemen down at the corner pub; when one of them says; “Nigel, I don’t know how to say this, but I have it on reliable certitude that your wife has been shagging a younger bloke from church.”
To which Nigel responds with a relaxed breath; “Well, at least someone is shagging her.”
Getting naked with a mixed social group might be a tantalizing item
on your bucket list, but the options can be radically different, and
lead to disappointment, even betrayal and abandonment. To the person
who’s never seriously considered getting naked in a large mixed group,
perhaps all the options seem the same. But where some groups, like
swingers clubs; gather with the intent of openly sexual interactions;
Naturist and nudist clubs specifically ban public sexuality. Even an
innocent erection might be frowned upon and the guy might be asked to
step apart from the women while he’s turgid.
There was once a time when your relationship had magic. That spark of romance, anticipation, and bonding. You’ve invested so much, until things somehow went south. It might have been a major incident, or a slow drifting away from each other.
It might be a personal health issue, or a forced new environment for the two of you.
We’ll look at home treatments and try to reverse bad habits, But we’ll also discuss your options with a caring and competent professional therapist who specializes in identifying and reversing obstacles in your lives, in a gentle manner.
Dating can be a thrilling adventure, full of exciting possibilities. But it’s important to be aware of potential red flags that might signal a less-than-ideal partner. While everyone has their quirks, some behaviors can be toxic and detrimental to a healthy relationship. You may have a great sexual chemistry, but partnership is a bonding of your souls. To that end, finding emotional intimacy is a bigger challenge than sexual intimacy.
Relationships are hard enough without choosing a partner who adds unnecessary drama and toxicity. It’s good to have standards and protect your own peace!
With input by Blonde&Balanced and Dinsmore. Listen to the Podcast at How To sex. Clearly, western culture has started failing to secure our survival. We saw it in western Europe, late in the last century. Plus, totalitarian Asian governments dictated it. We quit having enough babies to replace ourselves. We quit teaching our younger generations that a big part of existence is, creating more existence.
We delegated out so much of parenthood, that we quit associating with our roles in life.
The other day, a few media outlets in the New York region covered the story of a woman who can’t seem to stop having orgasms, which would seem joke-ready but can actually be a nightmare.
While the New Jersey woman’s condition has not been formally diagnosed, it appears she has persistent genital arousal disorder (P G A D), something we explored years ago.
The syndrome usually manifests as a constant blood engorgement of the female genitals, mainly the clitoris. This creates a sensation of needing “relief.” Cue the jokes. But imagine constantly sensing the need for orgasm at work, on the bus, while visiting with friends, and then finding no relief, or only very temporary relief, if you masturbate. Genitals can become highly sensitive, and sore. Sufferers describe feelings of isolation and mental anguish.
Unfortunately, nobody is quite sure what causes it or how to treat it, but, according to Jim Pfaus, a researcher at Montreal’s Concordia University who studies the neuroscience of sexual response, and who is currently engaged in studying persistent genital arousal, there are enough clues to develop a working theory.
“The root cause,” he explained, “may be an irritation of the clitoral sensory nerves.” The brain interprets this sensation and sets off a cascade of events.
If you want to incur the rage of a woman in this condition, even the slightest suggestion comparing her to a nymphomaniac, could result in you likely getting beaten up and humiliated.
She didn’t ask for this, and she detests its imposition almost as much as sexual assault. A woman wants to be a willing participant. Offer her whatever help she asks for, but it may be for you to get the hell out of here, especially if she usually has some attraction to you, and is now confused by her physically-aroused state.
A brain region called the pro-optic area responds to dopamine signaling by sending out instructions for the body to prepare for sex, as if a woman has been engaged in foreplay when, in fact, she’s not remotely in a sexual context. Blood flows to the genitals. “So we think that this blood flow is in a state of hyperarousal in women with P G A D,” Pfaus said. “They get engorgement quickly, reach orgasm quickly when they try to relieve themselves. It shares features with premature ejaculation and priapism” in men.
That’s consistent with observations others have made. For example, Barry Komisaruk at Rutgers University found that of a group of 18 women with P G A D, 12 had cysts on nerves in the sacral region of their spines. The cysts may be stimulating clitoral nerves.
A variety of drug therapies (there’s even one report of a physical therapy involving manipulation of muscles in the region) have shown to help. SSRIs, commonly used for depression, seem to provide some relief. But Pfaus believes the drug varenicline (Chantix, commonly used for smoking cessation) is most promising. It works by interrupting the signaling that leads to dopamine release. Blood stops flowing.
While the therapy has worked in scores of women, Pfaus said, the drug isn’t perfect. “Unfortunately it comes back when they go off it.”
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Moon Sprayed Eyes tells us about her condition, and the problems she still faces. It Killed My Marriage
I haven't received any diagnosis yet, but I have experienced nearly all of these symptoms as far back as preschool.
I have been to so many doctors, Primary Care Managers, Obstitricians, Gynecologists,, and mental health professionals, due to how I describe the sensations of throbbing, tingles; that make me feel like I'm trapped in a constant state of arousal; that is debilitating, deviant-like, impositions.
For 25 out of my 40 years I've not heard anything closely related to P G A D.
However, I have received diagnoses of; hypersexuality, sexual addiction, masturbation addiction, PTSD, hypersensitivity, rejection sensitivity, childhood trauma, divorce anguish, adult trauma, shame, guilt, agoraphobia, Major Depressive Disorder, anxiety.
The fallout? I was married 11 years. We tried individual and couples therapy 6-7 times and completed all sorts of “activities”, “homework” and received certificates.
It didn’t get better because my spouse husband couldn’t keep up what wasn’t natural to him.
We both had a hand in the demise of our marriage and we both deeply regret not being what the other person needed.
I really hope other marriages can fix or improve the parts that matter most; because I don’t wish this pain on anyone.
My former husband and I have been grieving each other’s loss since 2021 and I don’t think we’ll ever get over the loss of each other to “move on.” Not because we haven’t tried, but It’s not as easy to start over as one would think, when nothing feels normal. I don’t have the answers but I don’t wish this fate on anyone either.
Well you get the idea. All that just to learn, I was describing Persistant Genital Arousal Disorder 100% accurately, the whole time.
Along with nerve pains, and restless leg, insomnia. but hey, its all in my head, right?. Anyways.
Everything I've read, talk about biases, and that it's considered to be rare; more medical gas-lighting. 🫢
I am very interested to see what else comes out, and I’ll find as many research studies to bring the printed reports to my next appointment, because I can already see him rolling his eyes, and calling the nurse to bring the straightjacket.
Amp It faced a short term crisis with this disorder. She summarizes her ordeal. My Doctor Needs To Grow Up!
I had P G A D for about a week earlier this year. It was one of the worst things I have ever experienced. I was a hysterical mess after just a few days. I genuinely felt like I was losing my grip on my sanity. Orgasms didn’t even help—they actually made it worse. It hurt and the constant pressure in my pelvis was unbearable. There was a lot of ice packs and lidocaine and sobbing. I can’t imagine dealing with that BS long term. I don’t think I would even survive it. It was hell. Not even remotely sexy.
Since I had back surgery a few months ago my Gynecologist thought it could be something nerve related and wanted me to follow up with my neurosurgeon too. He did order an MRI for me, but the man would not stop cracking jokes at my husband about; “Ha ha ha, just don’t turn her on, am I right?”
No, sir. That was probably my grossest interaction with a doctor.
Glass Breather retells a grim story of her friend’s tortured life and premature death. It’s Perpetual Rape.
I have a friend who has suffered from this for her whole life, since she was five. She said the only way she could describe it was like being raped by demons constantly. Constant engorgement of the genitals, anxiety and stress would also cause unwanted stimulation which could not be contained through masturbation. It only made it worse. Orgasms would also usually make it worse.
Many of the women who suffer from this end up committing suicide. She has managed through a rigorous daily routine of yoga and meditation.
There are some theories that it has something to do with the psoas muscle, near the tailbone; or some sort of impinged spinal nerve that sends a feedback loop to the brain.
It is so far from pleasurable. Torture is closer to the truth.
Love In The Sun gives us a clinical insight. The desperation leads to bold behavior
I worked as a nurse in a big gynecology clinic. This was a teaching hospital in the US. We had a doctor who specialized in it.
Yes the suffering women would start masturbating in front of the doctor and would masturbate many many times a day, to the detriment of their lives.
She couldn’t hold a job, be a parent, or much of anything besides just being perpetually frustrated.
It was absolutely heartbreaking to hear their stories.
So no, this isn’t the same pleasurable experience most of us experience as an orgasm. It’s not pleasurable at all. Widespread
The condition is profound and widespread, but most sufferers are terrified that they might become exposed to public embarrassment and mockery.
LOS Angeles concert-goers were enjoying a rendition of Tchaikovsky's fifth symphony last week, when the sound of someone having a 'loud and fully body orgasm' suddenly cut through the music.
The incident sparked lively debate between audience members about whether the moaning woman was in the throes of toe-curling pleasure, or if she jerked awake after nodding off and having a bad dream.
Spectator Molly Grant told the LA Times she thought the unknown woman had orgasmed; "because she was heavily breathing, and her partner was smiling and looking at her, like in an effort to not shame her."
But another attendee said they'd witnessed her fall asleep on her partner's lap and wake with a cry 'five seconds later'.
Nevertheless, her 'scream/moan', which the LA Philharmonic blithely continued playing over, lead some to wonder whether the woman was suffering from a rare condition which causes uncontainable genital arousal.
Being constantly aroused however, isn't as fun as it sounds.
Medical News Today reported that people with P G A D can have trouble getting on with their day-to-day lives and may experience anxiety, panic attacks and depression.
Christine Decker from Wisconsin, developed the ultra rare condition after slipping a disk in her back.
She suffered a terrifying 236 orgasms in hospital while paramedics watched in horror, and Christine later became completely housebound.
Christine said the hormone therapy which reduced her levels of testosterone also slashed the number of her daily orgasms to just eight.
For mum Cara Anaya-Carlis, having P G A D meant something as simple as the vibrations from a washing machine could send her spiraling into episodes that could last between four and six hours, where she'd experience orgasms every 30 seconds.
Cara began to 'feel too dirty' to be a part of her son's life and felt too embarrassed to work.
Lior Ofir Schwartz from Miami Beach, Florida; began feeling constantly aroused despite not having sexual desires in 2012.
She described the feeling as a 'painful' itch she could not scratch, which would usually come on before the orgasms, when she was stressed, or at night.
Lior's condition worsened to the point that she was unable to have sex with her now husband Jonathan, when she began dating him, due to the pain.
And a mum in England, who started suffering uncontrollable orgasms following an NHS checkup, was left devastated after being told her health board wouldn't fund the medicinal cannabis to help her.
The widow, from East Dunbartonshire, told the The Herald: “Why should I be paying the bill when I didn’t cause the problem? This was inflicted on me by the NHS, so the NHS should be paying for it.
"It’s been recommended by the very specialist they sent me to – that I had to fight to be sent to – and now they’re ignoring his advice.
"The condition has calmed down a lot. My own GP says she’s never seen me looking better in the past two years than I do now. They’re the only thing that’s worked. For me, it’s amazing not to have feeling down there."
Maria believes the condition was sparked during a routine check at Glasgow's Stobhill Hospital in September 2017, claiming a consultant "rammed" a speculum into her.
In the weeks after the examination, Maria said she started to notice distressing symptoms, which were eventually diagnosed as P G A D, caused by damage to her pudendal nerve.
And she said she was furious after it was a NHS consultant who recommended the treatment, with the board now not paying. Thar She Blows
Lorna, who runs a food delivery service, drove over a speed bump in January 2019.
She said: “I felt a pounding and bulging sensation below.
“It was lucky I didn’t crash as I was losing control of my body.
“When I got to the house, I handed over the lunch with my legs crossed, ran to the car and quickly drove home.”
When it recurred, she saw her GP last July.
They offered an epilepsy treatment that eases nerve pain, and reduces the length of episodes.
Lorna, of Doncaster, South Yorks, turned down an ultrasound fearing it would send her into throes of orgasm, but never followed by a pleasant afterglow.
She added: “Once in a supermarket I had to grab shelves for support.
“People looked at me strangely. Another time my friend simply mentioned my boyfriend. I began panicking.
“I’d already started orgasming and so I ran inside a shop.”
She said of her love life: “Henry found it funny at first, but now we can’t kiss passionately as it sets me off. He counts down from three then says: ‘Thar she blows!’ Bewildered Doctors
Doctors have struggled to identify what exactly causes P G A D.
In a 2012 study, MRI results showed that 66.7 per cent of women who demonstrate P G A D symptoms also had a Tarlov cyst - abnormal sacs filled with spinal fluid in the base of the spine.
PERSISTENT genital arousal disorder (P G A D) is spontaneous, persistent and unwanted genital arousal without any sexual desire or satisfaction.
Multiple orgasms over hours, days or weeks can be agonising for sufferers, offering no relief.
Scientists do not know what causes the condition, but suspect neurological, vascular, pharmacological or psychological causes may play a role.
Symptoms can persist for long periods of time, and include:pressure pain clitoral throbbing tingling vaginal congestion vaginal contractions spontaneous orgasms
The signs and symptoms can affect the vagina, labia, perineum and anus.
The condition can impact on a sufferer's work and home life, leaving many feeling embarrassed, and avoiding sexual relationships.
People who have P G A D can undergo cognitive behavioral therapy, to help identify what triggers the attacks, and to manage the ensuing anxiety.
Antidepressants and anti-seizure drugs have also been used as treatment, and - in the case of Tarlov cysts being presence, surgery could also work.
Today we’re talking about the thrill of ministering to your sex
partner’s wonderful playground right between two legs. And today we’re
discussing the oral delight to the mouth. This is the safest sex act
involving penetration. The first report comes from BareAmy83. She’s so
delighted for all the health benefits she derives from her man’s semen.
But it’s her story to tell, so here she is.
JT has a great message for guys who need some coaching on how to play a woman’s cunt like a concert violinist.
It comes with plenty of hope from us ladies, that you will pay attention and put the knowledge into practice.
Now, JT is in charge of the workshop. For the couples in the classroom, Get comfy and help each other. All we ask is that you keep the moaning down to a level where other students can still hear the guest lecturer. And now I give you JT Hammerhead.
There is perhaps no greater point of contention than the G-spot. Does it exist? Is it just a myth? How does it work?
The old world of centuries past, had a trusted process of passing on skills from one generation to the next. Apprenticeships were an effective way to learn through practice. The concept is still used in many trades, But today it also incorporates testing and demonstrations of skills acquired, in order to be certified by an oversight guild or trade association.
We’re instituting this same concept of mastery, to help lovers assess their progress in the art of erotic coupling.
Youthful pledges enter apprenticeships where they learn fundamental skills and benefit from supervised practice.
Many a woman has been subjected to shame & humiliation by an ignorant lover who assumes that the chick just pissed in bed, in the middle of lovemaking. The truth is, He caused it more than she did. And he should actually be proud of his superior coupling skills. Bless his darling heart and stupid head! Here’s an essay
Please Release Me, Let Me Flow. Men’s Guide To Female Ejaculation. Introduction and tips
Do you seek some physical confirmation that your bedroom skills are pushing your lady to the peak of desire? Are you delivering the zenith of BIG ‘O’s? When the blushed chest and moaning and screaming haven’t sufficed as proof, start exercising those arms, clip your nails and get your waders out…things are about to get real messy!
Men take ejaculation for granted. It’s like a 'liquid-trophy’ of man-hood, and the source of your future legacies and heirs. But cast your mind back to that very first time you managed to squeeze some 'Gentleman’s Gel’ from the end of your 'young chap’, I guarantee you might have been writhing in ecstasy, but you were also confused and maybe even a little ashamed. My boyfriend will admit to believing he’d somehow 'broken it’ when he finally popped his cork in his teen years. With females the climax has always been much harder to tell. After all, the female orgasm never had such a visible finale, or so you’ve been led to believe.
A skill possessed by most females but in reality admitted and permitted by few, female ejaculation is one of those few remaining taboos and 'un-tapped’ delights of the 21st century. You all know that your girl can’t help but spill the beans on your 'sexploits’ to her close circle of friends. She’ll be all too eager to divulge your size, expertise and finishing techniques, but never be fooled into thinking she’s dishing the dirt on herself. It’s strange but there are still some subjects considered too taboo to share over a bottle of wine, and depositing her 'load’ seems to be up there with rimming and fisting. In truth you are more likely to hear a guy discuss the pleasures of female ejaculation than you ever would a woman
History dating back as far back as the 2nd Century has detailed the ability of females to ejaculate during sex. Yet often when seeking medical counsel from doctors, gynecologists, and psychiatrists, these anxious ladies were invariably told they were incontinent and needed either surgery or psychotherapy. The belief and humiliation of it being linked to incontinence stripped any sexual satisfaction, often leaving the female ashamed. After all what girl wants to earn herself the reputation of an un-intentional 'bed wetter’? Even today’s UK Censors have been known to emit footage of females ejaculating from porn films, wrongly believing it to be urine and therefore fetish orientated. In fact what these ladies are actually achieving is the absolute pinnacle of female sexual pleasure. An ejaculatory orgasm, or 'squirting’ as now commonly referred, which renders them well and truly spent!
Most of us ladies who have experienced an ejaculation initially believed we’ve suffered from a leaky bladder. Instead of enjoying the sensation we were mortified to believe we had 'golden-showered’ our partner and indeed, in many cases so did you men. Lots of females, under thorough interrogation or clever coaxing will admit to having had an experience where they believed they’d 'leaked’ during sex. The feeling of ejaculating is not dissimilar to peeing, a shower of warm wet liquid and a feeling of intense release.
Often it’s the guy’s reaction to ejaculation that will determine any future releases. If he’s had previous experience, or at least understands what has actually just happened, things will be significantly less embarrassing for both parties. In truth, he has skillfully hit the lucky girls G-spot and her eternal font of pleasure. If however he jumps to his feet shouting 'Fucking-Hell! You’ve pissed yourself’, the chances are your girl will dry up like the Serengeti…as will your sex life.
It has taken almost 1,800 years for the subject, often considered an urban myth, to finally be an acceptable and willing bed partner. When it first started happening to me I was so paranoid I found myself looking at adult nappies in Boots Chemist surgical dressings department. You may snigger but I assure you, to a girl only in her twenties if you believe you’ve started to pee yourself during sex, it’s like the end of the world. No amount of Bulgari perfume is going hide the stench of piss sodden sheets.
For our part, the fairer sex has enjoyed and indulged the sexual revolution. We found our clitoris, and in increasing numbers so have men. We’ve stocked up on toys, some of us have even engaged in threesomes, swinging and discovered the delights of Fetishes. In a relatively short time women have been sexually liberated, and for the first time in history we can finally take the lead in the bedroom and dungeon. In 1981 when Newsweek published its editorial piece 'Just How the Sexes Differ’, it claimed the major difference was 'that men ejaculate, but women do not’. Oh! How naive they were. The actual difference between men and woman is that we can 'shoot’ more, and further than you. Soon teenage girls everywhere could be enjoying their own version of the 'Soggy Biscuit’ game.
Once released, the actual ejaculation itself can be a mind-blowing experience for both partners. Not only does the female get 'THE’ most intense orgasm, but also the lucky partner gets some serious dousing of love-juice. The amount of fluid 'squirted’ can vary considerably in volume. Most Doctors have settled between the 5ml and 100ml volume, but personal experience and others can testify to soaking a bath towel over the course of an evening. The amount varies as much as force of expulsion. My partner in particular will often receive a warm soaking of his balls. But on occasion, particularly during harder 'doggy style’ penetration I’ve managed to drench not only him, but also the soles of my feet and beyond. Something he’s definitely partial to.
In reality many men are fascinated with this so-called 'phenomenon’ adding to the growing 'ejaculating super-female’ urban myth. Legend has it that when Motley Crue drummer Tommy Lee started dating a girl named 'Bullwinkle’ it wasn’t her looks he was interested in, but her ability to 'spray her cum across the room’. That may also lead some credence to Pamela Andersons’ claim that guys’ can’t get enough of her 'trick pelvis’.
Equaling the tally for all those 'pearl necklaces’ has its satisfaction, especially ejaculating during oral and I’m becoming very adept at delivering my own version, a 'sparkling-choker’. But a price does have to be paid for all this pleasure. First of all it can present a new slant on the question of 'who sleeps on the wet patch?’ Especially when we are not talking about just a loving’ spoonful, but up to half a pint and bed linen that look like they should be displayed in the Tate Modern. Forget Tracy Emmin’s 'un-made bed’. Check out my sheets, I could give Jackson Pollock a run for his money!
There are a few ground rules to undertaking your quest. Do not set out believing there really is such a thing as the 'ejaculating super-female’, even if I personally would wear the t-shirt with pride. Most women can ejaculate but many don’t. In the same way that all women can orgasm even though some don’t, be it through physical or mental blockage, or just plain in-experience. When you guys first engaged in a 'five knuckle shuffle’ you got a result. It may have taken a while before you managed to produce your 'baby gravy’, but you still got hard and it captured your affections. The climax has always been much more hidden and complex in females, and as such, a source of infinite frustration in men. Giving rise to that ever popular question 'How was it for you?’ You seem to need to ask us!
There are indeed many complexes in achieving female ejaculation but it’s best to start with compatible partners. Both parties have to be sexually adventurous as some women claim that their partners will literally 'wilt when showered’. Other females, especially if you’ve just 'popped their cherry 'ade’, will still dive for the bathroom absolutely mortified and convinced they have committed an indiscretion. If the idea of water-sports has intrigued you in part but you’re not too keen on urine, female ejaculation could be your 'holy grail’.
Now, whoever said that condoms were passion killers has never tried a mattress protector, or jumping up halfway through a really good session to find a towel. Forget that decaying crusty sock you keep under the bed, which is covered in dead cultivations of 'man-milk’. If your girlfriend can squirt you will seriously need to upgrade. At one stage I even started obsessing about staining the mattress. This doesn’t happen but it does raise yet another issue of 'protection’.
Like in Yoga where one is taught to almost reverse ones breathing pattern, in sex the female needs to control another inbuilt reflex. The building of the 'ejaculation’ does feel very much like a desire to pee and as soon as the urethra starts to tingle, second nature kicks in. When squeezed The Pubococcygeus Muscle (try get your tongue around that!), prevents the bladder leaking. It is crucial for your girlfriend to oppose this contraction and actually bear down against it. This is not an easy concept to get your head around because if you bear against the muscle that prevents you peeing, surely that means you do. Not in this instance it seems. Contraction of the muscle in this instance actually stops an orgasm from building; pretty much the same way as squeezing the base of the penis and thinking momentarily of Anne Widdecombe does in men. It does not prevent further ejaculation, just postpones it. This is the first barrier you need to deal with. Don’t be under any illusions that your girlfriend will fill your mouth with milk & honey on command. If only life were that simple. Remember the hunt for the clitoris? Well if that equaled gaining an 'A’ level qualification, getting your girlfriend to 'squirt’ for the very first time is like obtaining a PhD.
The ejaculation itself does come through the urethra, the same tube used for urination. It is located just outside the vaginal opening. If you spread your ladies inner labia and trace your finger from just inside her pussy, up towards the clitoris, after about half an inch you can find a tiny hole. Almost a needle in a haystack, especially if your lady is unshaven. This is where the ejaculation fluid exits, but not where it originates. That’s the job of the 'Skene Gland’. The equivalent to a male prostate, which produces seminal fluid in males and it’s hidden between the G-spot and the clitoris. Although some insignificant traces of urine are evident, the composition is not that dissimilar to the fluid produced by the male prostate to keep all those hungry little 'baby-makers’ alive during male ejaculation.
The fluid can appear like either watered down milk or can be clear in composition. It in no way offers any contraception as the fluid is expelled outside the vagina. Therefore the only conceivable purpose of female ejaculation is for pleasure. And the pleasure is intense, in many cases far surpassing any previous best. Ejaculation can take place during both a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm, thus providing a magical 'third’ orgasm. If you are lost on the difference between a clitoral and a vaginal orgasm, you might want to ask your girlfriend; although if you really don’t know the difference, you probably won’t have a girlfriend to ask.
An ejaculation results from manipulation inside the vagina, as per a vaginal orgasm, but with an added jackpot. Giving the female an amazing double whammy orgasm. Sometimes after ejaculation the female can virtually pass out from the after-glow of forceful feelings. But don’t worry, unlike men, there’s usually more to follow. Give her a few minutes and she’ll be filling up like the office water cooler.
Obviously a starting point to your crusade is required. It usually helps to wait until your lucky lady is already aroused before declaring your honorable intentions. Place a towel on the bed to help absorb your 'baptism’. Each orgasm will deliver a different volume of liquid in all manner of directions and velocity. This can range in spectacle from a trickling 5ml to a turbulent 200ml (I no longer worry about my creative juices drying up, as I reckon with my other talents I could easily always get some freelance work with the fire service).
I would just also like to rectify a point here about another 'urban myth’ that we girls have been swallowing for years. When was it actually decided that the male load averaged at 10cc? Who were these 'specimens’? My boyfriend often cums so much I once actually accused him of being a freak. Bad etiquette I know, but sometimes I resemble the star attraction at a 'Bukakke’ club. I have literally eaten his humble pie though; first time I ejaculated over him he was perfecting his oral skills. I came so much he was thoroughly drenched. His hair, face and chest were totally dripping. The sheet showed perfectly where his head and torso had taken the brunt, leaving an outlined dry patch. He loved his 'baptism’ so much I counted 9 more ejaculations before rolling over, passing out and leaving him with the mess. Now there’s a novel occurrence. On other more adventurous occasions we have actually measured distances, managing up to 5ft of coverage; and I used to think the Bangkok ping-pong ball trick was impressive.
If you haven’t yet introduced toys to your relationship, fingers will be more than adequate for the job. Both can achieve the desired result but for first timers you will need to feel your way around, so you should probably leave the toys until later. Scrub your hands well. Trim and if necessary file your fingernails, you don’t want to cut the poor girl (Welders, Guitarists and Builders take note: your fingers are not often noted as 'hands that do dishes’. But this is one area you can truly exploit those textured fingertips). It can also help to exercise your arms and fingers a little; you do not want to find yourself huffing 'are you nearly there yet?’ Time should not be of essence during sex unless your girlfriends expecting a birthday telegram from the Queen.
Start off slowly with lots of foreplay, for both parties. Maneuver her onto her back with you positioned between her thighs. Using your fingers and tongue stimulate her clitoris. Wet your fingers and tweak her nipples to really get her going, whilst executing the best cunnilingus skills you can muster. When you sense her starting to get aroused, insert two fingers inside her with your palm facing upwards. Enter your fingers up to the second knuckle and bend upwards to create an L shape. Now gently probe around until you find a rough surface approximately 2 inches in length. This is the G-spot and is located directly behind the clitoris but inside her pussy.
When you literally 'hit the spot’, start to stroke this area and it should start too en-large. Ask her to let you know if she can feel any increase in intensity. If she can’t maybe you have the wrong area so keep looking. Don’t go mad, but you may be surprised at your partner’s thresholds. Try out differing degrees of pressure as you are probing, and if necessary use some lube. Massaging the clitoris with your thumb whilst doing this also increases stimulation. If she is having trouble relaxing or is becoming self-conscious be prepared to let her see that it’s also working for you. It helps to see that your fella is enjoying himself, and watching my guy 'box with his one-eyed champ is an absolute delight.
Your stroking may need some variety. You can work the two fingers together simultaneously or they can work in opposition like a finger walking exercise. Work around the whole area. An effective method is to combine the two previous suggestions followed by sliding your fingers in about an inch, before pulling out and sliding them back in. Start off slowly and build in speed. Don’t go too hard; you are not trying to fist her. Try stimulating her clitoris at the same time; trust me this is not a time for idle hands. Keep measuring her responses. Heavy breathing, deep moaning and contractions around your fingers are a good indication that something is working. When you feel her start to bear down, begin pumping your fingers faster. At some point hopefully your girlfriend will experience a desire to pee. This is what you are both aiming for. If she can bear down and positively encourage this, and your handy-work has been sufficient, things should get very wet.
This isn’t necessarily the best position to achieve ejaculation. The inside of a women’s vagina is shaped, sized and angled individually, a bit like the shape of the male member. Penetration from behind may definitely be the key. Do remember however that in this position you need to work palm down. It will be easier for you to work on her G-spot and massage her clit at the same time. Try different variations with hands, tongues and fingers. Remember, if you do become dis-heartened, this time there are prizes for her 'Cumming’ first. If fingers are not working, try using your thumb. Although initially it won’t reach the G-spot, if you stimulate her clitoris it will swell during arousal. Take two fingers and lay them either side of her clitoris, then position your thumb inside her forming a three-fingered claw. This allows for the curve between the forefinger and middle finger to apply pressure and friction to the clit. If you start to move your thumb and fingers in a pumping motion you will massage both clit and G-spot at the same time. When she starts to bear down increase your speed. Over time it is possible to control and even prevent ejaculation whilst still enjoying the orgasm, but that’s just plain criminal! 'Please release me, let me flow’ should be every female’s motto. If your girlfriend does manage to ejaculate it will, rest assured, catch you both by surprise. This is a significant moment for both of you, and if it’s either party’s first time, you will remember that moment of impact forever. The truly amazing bonus that evolution has granted us finally superior to males is that we can do it again and again. Be aware that in the same way we can have multiple orgasms, we can also have multiple ejaculations. Intensity and amount of fluid may vary with each individual orgasm until our supplies are depleted, but the sensations just get better. Being entered from behind whilst 'squirting’ provides the ultimate finishing touch. The smile of the man who is lucky enough to have his balls drenched by his ladies cum is definitely a Kodak moment.
Your girlfriend may not ejaculate every time she orgasms, and indeed a case is even documented where a lady approached her gynecologist believing she was ill because it had stopped happening. Pressure on the female to deliver can be intense, and can prevent ejaculation in the same way it happens to men. Relaxation, an open mind and willingness are the three key factors. If these elements all click the final result will most likely be the most pleasurable and intense orgasm she has ever experienced. Now just imagine being the guy able to deliver that!
After ejaculating your girlfriend will obviously, and hopefully, be a bit delirious for a few moments. It passes way too quickly so let her enjoy it before commencing with your wicked-way. She probably will want you to continue in a few seconds, or she may wish to have a breather. But I’m sure you will also wish to take a couple of seconds to comprehend the aftermath. As for achieving other ejaculations beyond this point, it’s a bit like riding a bike hopefully without the grazed knees.
Once perfected, don’t be surprised when she now starts to hassle you for oral. Yep! Equal rights! Which leads us nicely on to the etiquette of swallowing and taste. Like male ejaculate, the taste of lady-juice can vary from bitter to sweet according to diet, water consumption and a host of other environmental and biological factors. Male porn stars frequently abstain from alcohol or spicy food for a couple of days before a shoot to combat what is known as the 'gag factor’. It’s an assault on the ladies taste buds and will invariably produce a 'Spunk-purging’ reaction. But if you drink a pint of water and avoid spicy food, it’s not quite the delight of Evian, but it’s definitely more palatable. Well the same goes for us girls. On occasion it can taste sweet, on occasion bitter and at certain times of the month metallic…it is generally advised to avoid these times as you could end up earning your 'red wings’. Nuff said!
Here’s More About the female Ejaculation, written to help men understand that she didn’t just pee in bed. In fact, her body and soul just paid you the highest sexual compliment that you can ever get. Perhaps 90% of men will never know the accomplishment of bringing a woman to this high level of sexual ecstasy. Here’s an essay from Roissy. Squirting; She Can Do It!
In most stories Its mentioned how the women cum so hard it shoots out of their pussies. Not unlike a guy shooting ropes. It is all in the technique, and you can get there too. Whether you are a man who wants to see his lady just soak the hell out of the sheets or you’re a woman who would like to experience total indescribable bliss. Then you should read on.
A long time ago when the wife and I first started dating, almost fourteen years, we were like any other couple just starting a relationship. We would fuck our brains out every chance we got! The kitchen, the bedroom, the living room it didn’t really matter what room or what place, if we got a moment we took it. We thought our sex life was spectacular. Heck one night I remember ejaculating more than seven times. I couldn’t begin to tell you how many she had. We loved it all; oral, different positions, tie up games, fun with food, and even ventured into the swinging scene. We would read erotic novels or go on the computer to Literotica to find hot stories then play out the scenes. We had tried just about anything “normal” (because normal is relative) two people could do with each other. She would give me mind blowing orgasms with her mouth, cunt, and ass. I would eat her pussy till she couldn’t take anymore. Then one day we watched a movie, I can’t really recall what one it was but anyway, in this movie it showed a technique for making the woman cum so hard that her cum would actually squirt right out of her pussy. And let me tell ya, the look on the girl’s face when she was finished cumming was remarkable. It was a look of pure satisfaction. My wife asked me if I thought we should try the procedure and I said absolutely!
Now that you know how our sex elevated to frequent squirting, and let me tell you it is still a regular occurrence, let me explain how it is done! A pre-step to take before trying this method. Make sure to take a leak before you start. An emptied bladder is more responsive to sexual stimuli. You’ll understand more as we continue.
If you’re a woman who wants a higher degree of arousal and wet, mind-blowing multiple orgasms, let me talk to the man in your sex life. I have some special instructions to share.
This kind of arousal needs more than a massive cock to make it happen. Here’s how to get her off over and over, in a wild and wet session.
STEP 1: Make sure you’re both comfortable. Maybe a little wine, soft music, or perhaps a good erotic massage, it doesn’t matter, just as long as a woman is completely relaxed.
STEP 2: Do whatever it is you usually do to have a nice normal orgasm. If a female orgasm is having problems occurring, just skip right to STEP 4).
STEP 3: Make sure she is feeling very comfortable, it is key!
STEP 4: Start licking the woman’s clit and slide two fingers deep in her cunt. If your woman has a slightly bigger cunt opening, then increase the number of fingers being used.
STEP 5: Turn said fingers so that your palm is up facing you. (If a lady is trying to do this alone, she should have her palm against her pubic bone then bend the wrist so it points away from her body. Almost like are making a scoop.)
STEP 6: Push your fingers toward the ceiling. You want to turn your wrist like you are trying to start a motorcycle.
STEP 7: Run your fingers along this “wall”, feel for a small rough area. Believe it or not it kind of feels like a walnut. She will know the spot immediately.
STEP 8: Keep rubbing, increasing the speed and pressure as you do. Don’t rub too hard or too fast right off the start. Work up to it.
STEP 9: This is probably the most important one. When you do see your woman starting to get real excited, they might tell you to stop because they feel like they are about to pee. Remind them they have no pee in their bladder, and tell them to JUST RELAX and let it Go!
STEP 10: Take cover because you are about to be showered upon. My wife has squirted over three feet in the air lying on her back!!
So there you have it, lovers, ten steps to oblivion. I forgot to mention one thing. TOWELS, TOWELS, TOWELS! Or get a second set of sheets ready. And don’t whine about doing extra laundry, it is totally worth it.
I can’t promise this method will work for you but if you want to pursue a mind-blowing ecstasy, and never have before; why not give it a shot. We did, and the shooting hasn’t stopped since.
